0 Determine your attitude and be yourself

One of the problems while socializing with other people is a decisive attitude. Often people try to be funny and sociable. Even sometimes when we don't like something, we are lying to ourselves with love it only because of reasons like; for the sake of friends, solidarity and others.


Determining the attitude in relationships is important, so that you can truly be yourself, not easily influenced. Too easy to say yes, make us as not opinionated, easily controlled and have self-esteem. Things like this should be avoided if you want to build a strong character in you.

To resolve this, try to impose limits on yourself, how far you have to say yes and no. When refusing something, try using a way that is not rude and offensive, except in urgent situations. And to say yes, think first whether it is negative or positive impact for you, so that in the future there are no regrets.

Don't be afraid of being called selfish, disloyal. It's not easy doing the right thing, but if you don't try, then you will never succeed. Define your attitude and don't be afraid being left alone and have no friends, because you don't need people who do not appreciate you.

Its not easy and instant, the process will be full of conflicts and challenges. Avoid being too awkward  in your relationships, and also do not impose to reject everything that is asked to you even though you're interested in, because having self-esteem does not mean you become an unfriendly person.

Slow but sure, allow yourself to adjust, along with the process and the time that you went through it, then the confidence, attitudes, and your self esteem will be formed by itself.